Sunday, October 20, 2013

This is What You Have to Survive Now

So you're stuck in this dead end job, have an unsatisfactory relationship (or no relationship), feel powerless to do anything about it, and I am telling you that dreams now take longer to achieve so don't except to get there until your late 30s or your 40s? Do I really want to get you depressed? Can't I just say that, once that you have survived your own three years of the Quarter Life Crisis, everything is going to be fine and my 30s are going to be magical?

Unfortunately, I am just telling the truth. Dreams do take long to acheive, and I don't sugarcoat things.

But fortunately, this doesn't mean that you have a decade or more of despair in front of you. Far from it. From my experience, although people don't generally emerge from their Quarter Life Crisis having all their dreams fulfilled, some people are able to regain some spirit of optimism and find a way to balance their lives. They eventually go on to make their dreams come true. What I am saying that, the solution to the quarter life crisis is not finding an instant ticket to your dreams, because you won't be able to find one, but to find a way to allow yourself to not be burnt out, to keep your spirit of youth alive, and to keep your dreams alive until they are achieved.

Cast your memory back to high school. There's quite a large chance that you didn't want to be there too. You may even have nostalgic memories about it now, but at that time you didn't want to be there. Yet you survived it, and in hindsight, it wasn't that bad (or why else are you nostalgic about it?). The road towards your destination in life is the same. Each day on this long road there may be things that you don't want to do, there may be frustrations here and there, and you may develop severe self doubt along the way too. Yet, as long as you know you will get out of here, and have hope about a brighter future fuelled by your dreams, you will survive, like you did in high school. And whilst you will be wanting to get to your destination as soon as possible, the days before you get there may not be bad at all - just like although you wanted to get out of high school as soon as possible, in hindsight it wasn't that bad.

To sum it up, the bad news is that the long road towards feeling accomplished is something you will have to survive. The good news is that, with the right strategy, you will survive it well, and eventually you will get there. The strategy is both in your mindset and in the things you do in everyday life. The rest of this book is dedicated to such strategies. They include kicking poisonous way of thinking, strategies to sustain the optimism of youth and the capacity to dream through a long, sometimes difficult time, and how to continue to believe in yourself when the rest of the world no longer believes in you.

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