Sunday, September 15, 2013

So What is Causing The QLC Symptoms?

The reasons why people have a quarter life crisis is still under debate. It is usually recognised as stemming from unmet expectations and a difficulty in making future decisions in life. However, I believe there is another reason why these symptoms occur.

Taken together, the symptoms mentioned above actually sound like a combination of symptoms from the middle stages of the classical five stages of grief - anger, bargaining (dressed up as indecision and a desire to just do whatever crazy thing that comes to mind - but really it's just plain old bargaining if you think about it) and depression (which is why 'nothing feels particularly right' and why sometimes people have low energy during this period).

But what are these people actually grieving? Different people have different theories. Here's ours.

The majority of these people are yet quite far off from seriously needing to ponder their deaths, after all. What they are grieving is their youth, their feeling of specialness (which they were brought up to believe in), and the dreams they have had since childhood. Whilst dreams take longer to achieve nowadays, their self belief and their youthfulness would have set them up for life, to last the duration of this prolonged ride. However, for a combination of reasons (which we will explore in this website and in our upcoming book), society is stealing these things away from them prematurely, however, and with it their confidence to continue to dream also comes to an end. Although physically they are not old yet, with this mindset they may as well be just going through the everyday motions of life whilst waiting out the rest of their days as old-hearted, dreamless people, for the rest of their lives. Although it will be quite a long time before they finally leave this Earth physically, spiritually they may as well already be living-dead people.


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Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Symptoms of a Quarter Life Crisis

The symptoms of a quarter life crisis can vary a lot. Symptoms often include a feeling that life isn't turning out right, a fear of the future because life doesn't seem right there either, a fear of one's mortality and failing in one's life (which usually sounds crazy to older adults), indecision about life choices, a general feeling that things aren't right, and sometimes a crisis in self identity and self esteem.

Broadly speaking, the following are all potential symptoms of a quarter life crisis:

Insecurity about one's life decisions
Envy of other's lives
Dissatisfaction with current life, job, relationship and/or friendships
A feeling of being a failure in life
A feeling that life isn't what it should be
Severe and recurrent nostalgia
Feeling lost
Feeling trapped
Severe indecisiveness about almost everything
A feeling that something isn't right in life, even though everything is right in theory
Budget management issues
Wanting to just escape it all and do some crazy things
Frequent changes in jobs, residence and/or relationships
Crises about religion and spirituality


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